Trashy or Trendy
Ladies, ladies ladies. I am finding that some of you surprise me with your clothing choices. I want you all to be the confident beautiful women that you are but I’ve been finding more and more of you wearing clothing styles because they come in your size despite the fact that they don’t fit your body type. A good friend of mines daughter is a beautiful girl with some meat on her bones and informed me, through Facebook, that just because they make clothing styles in your size doesn’t mean that women should wear them. I agree. I’m not saying you have to but commit to TRYING ON ALL CLOTHING BEFORE YOU BUY!
The Skinny Jean – I’ve not seen many plus-size women pull this look off. Those that do so successfully are usually plus sized not because they are extra curvy or are a little heavy, these women are plus sized because they are just big. I don’t mean big in a negative way, but that they are long and thick. Because they have longer legs and torso, these women can pull off a slim jean with a narrow opening at the bottom. I urge you my beautiful ladies to please, with all your might steer clear of this fashion faux pas. Many of the plus size clothing lines carry these in our size but anything that is going to hug and narrow just one part of your body is going to accentuate all the bad parts. If you are thin in the legs and heavy in the middle you too need to avoid this look. Although it may look good on your legs, the top will look oversized.
The One-Piece – I’ve seen a number of one piece / jumpsuit style short/pant sets floating out there also. I warn you, please avoid. If you are shopping in the plus size or extended size areas of clothing stores, this is one piece to try on, but know, that I’ve not seen one woman who can carry this off if she has a little cushion where cushion is normally found.
Super Low Cut tops – Ladies, I find that many of us girls who are perfectly plum have some pretty nice ta-tas for show. A little cleavage is always nice especially when perfectly placed breasts can make a waste seem thinner and hips more proportionate to the body. Boobs should still be considered a blessing and although many women follow the rule “It’s not a boob unless you see nipple,” not all people agree. Bathing suites are one thing but your shirt should show an appropriate amount of cleavage. Deep V’s and plunging necklines actually look great on women with less of a chest versus those with a huge chest. If your grandmother would be concerned that you may end up with a “chest cold” layer you shirt with a lacy camie or a buttoned cardigan. A little peep show is usually sexier than a strip tease.
Fashion is a little bit trickier for us. We just can’t look at something the way someone who is a little thinner does. We have to look at things like:
1. Fabric – Does it lay nice? Coverage? Stretch?
The way a fabric lays on you is really important. Cheap fabric like nylon and rayon and spandex are not always the most flattering –even if they are comfy or trendy. When your body isn’t flawless these fabrics ride on your skin, so even if you wear black, people can see areas that you may want to hide. Designers love stretch and sheer material for larger women. Why? A little stretch is nice as it hugs where sometimes fabric can sag, but taking a piece of fabric and making it thinner by stretching it over your body isn’t always flattering.
Choose fabrics with a little weight and that are natural. The more shine and
stretch they have the less quality and fit they will have.
2. Cut - What does this mean?
Look for fabric that has lines / cut that draw the eye in at the thinnest parts of your body. You want balance. If you have a big chest look for lines that draw in under the chest and don’t hug at the waist. If you have a big middle look for pants that are slightly larger at the bottom. Balance and proper fit to the body is important when you want to look as though you have style.
3. Style – Classic should be essential
This is the hardest rule for women to follow. Your main wardrobe can be fun but remember that classics will always be just that – classy. Find good classic fitting clothing and then, from there add the funky trendy pieces. Many of the styles you find are going to be way over-priced so make them part of your wardrobe by adding them to the classics you already have. Keep in mind the fabric and cut.
Look for classics like button-down, trouser jeans, good fitting slacks and jackets and add great shoes, jewelry and other essentials as you come across them. This doesn’t mean you have to be boring or all tailored and tan, just that the reason why classics are, well, classic is that they fit just about every body type and can be dressed up or down. Throw in risky items like revealing camies, corset or nylons under these garments and show a little to spice it up. Find your style and rock it!
- What have you seen that really works for plus size women?
- What have you seen that many plus size women do that’s just a mess?
- What tricks do you have to offer?